Comments on: What do you do when enough is enough? http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/2008/12/what-do-you-do-when-enough-is-enough/ The good, the bad and the guilt - through motherhood Sat, 27 Feb 2010 10:44:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Kat http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/2008/12/what-do-you-do-when-enough-is-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-40 Kat Mon, 22 Dec 2008 17:09:45 +0000 http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/?p=55#comment-40 I'm presuming you don't really know, beyond what I've posted, about my situation, so your comments feel a little to me like you're making assumptions. I think there are things you can do to make it much less likely your children will stay close to you, and I can try my hardest not to repeat at least the worst ones I experienced. This Xmas I'll be relaxing and enjoying my time with no arguments, and no manipulations - and with my wonderful husband and son I’m presuming you don’t really know, beyond what I’ve posted, about my situation, so your comments feel a little to me like you’re making assumptions. I think there are things you can do to make it much less likely your children will stay close to you, and I can try my hardest not to repeat at least the worst ones I experienced. This Xmas I’ll be relaxing and enjoying my time with no arguments, and no manipulations – and with my wonderful husband and son

]]> By: Jane http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/2008/12/what-do-you-do-when-enough-is-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-39 Jane Mon, 22 Dec 2008 14:44:01 +0000 http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/?p=55#comment-39 I don't know anything about Jenny which may have affected her outlook on family life but I'm sure your mother felt exactly the same way about you when you were young as you do about your son. All of us with children hope that they will always be close to us - I hope this will be true for you but you never know what lies in the future. Wishing you a peaceful and happy Xmas. I'm sure your family will be thinking of you. I don’t know anything about Jenny which may have affected her outlook on family life but I’m sure your mother felt exactly the same way about you when you were young as you do about your son. All of us with children hope that they will always be close to us – I hope this will be true for you but you never know what lies in the future.
Wishing you a peaceful and happy Xmas. I’m sure your family will be thinking of you.

]]> By: Kat http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/2008/12/what-do-you-do-when-enough-is-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-38 Kat Mon, 22 Dec 2008 13:05:41 +0000 http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/?p=55#comment-38 Family can be important, but as Jenny says, what is the point when they can be the cause of so much misery. I did think about therapy when I was younger, but the last few years I have been far happier and healthier than ever, and have moved on with my life in so many ways. I accepted long ago that there were good and bad times when I was young. The awful times don't change the fact that there were good ones, but the good times don't make destructive relationships ok in the long run. I'm not sure a different perspective would take away my fears of a repeat of behaviour, and from the limited contact I've had with them, they've shown that they haven't - at least in respect of me - changed over the years. I hope I've learnt from my bad experiences so that my beautiful, precious son never feels the way I do about my family. Family can be important, but as Jenny says, what is the point when they can be the cause of so much misery. I did think about therapy when I was younger, but the last few years I have been far happier and healthier than ever, and have moved on with my life in so many ways. I accepted long ago that there were good and bad times when I was young. The awful times don’t change the fact that there were good ones, but the good times don’t make destructive relationships ok in the long run. I’m not sure a different perspective would take away my fears of a repeat of behaviour, and from the limited contact I’ve had with them, they’ve shown that they haven’t – at least in respect of me – changed over the years.

I hope I’ve learnt from my bad experiences so that my beautiful, precious son never feels the way I do about my family.

]]> By: Jane http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/2008/12/what-do-you-do-when-enough-is-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Jane Mon, 22 Dec 2008 10:26:41 +0000 http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/?p=55#comment-37 So sad to hear you say these things. Family really are important to all of us and you should not let past experiences affect the future for you or your son. Perhaps some therapy might help to put a different perspective on things for you? So sad to hear you say these things. Family really are important to all of us and you should not let past experiences affect the future for you or your son. Perhaps some therapy might help to put a different perspective on things for you?

]]> By: Jenny http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/2008/12/what-do-you-do-when-enough-is-enough/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Jenny Sun, 21 Dec 2008 12:06:02 +0000 http://www.muddlingthroughmotherhood.co.uk/?p=55#comment-36 Blimey! You have been through with it with them! Sorry to hear that. Why do political parties keep going on about with 'the family' and it's 'values' as if it were some hallowed institution when it's quite clearly the source of so much misery, stress and strain to so many? Particularly at this time of year! Blimey! You have been through with it with them! Sorry to hear that. Why do political parties keep going on about with ‘the family’ and it’s ‘values’ as if it were some hallowed institution when it’s quite clearly the source of so much misery, stress and strain to so many? Particularly at this time of year!

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