You are currently browsing the archives for 2009

Going a bit greener

  • Posted on August 17, 2009 at 6:07 pm

I’ve been reading a bit lately about peak oil and climate change and that sort of thing. This is because I’ve found that having Rowan has made me worry about the future, and because we have friends who have managed to effectively (and not deliberately) make me sit up and notice. I’m a bit too scared to read the real doom and gloom ‘we’re all going to starve’ type stuff and have instead been focusing on more upbeat things about the small things we can do to help – both to reduce our impact on the world and to prepare ourselves in the event that things do get really bad.

To that end, while the enthusiasm remains I am going to, in the style of an excellent blog I have been reading, set myself one task each week. It might be introducing a new thing into our daily lives or it might be trying out something new, or doing something different for a week (I am liking Jo’s no meat for a week challenge this week). It might also be something a bit fun if I’m going for something every week. We’ll see.

This week I have decided to do one thing in two parts. I am going to make some jam – learning to preserve the things that we’re growing. However I only have a small blackberry patch at the moment (and bramble jelly is my favourite) so I am going to also do a bit of urban foraging - for something that I can definitely recognise and know when it is ripe :)

I shall undoubtedly blog about my jam making adventures later!

Fatherly love

  • Posted on August 9, 2009 at 8:28 pm

When I get frustrated with David, or Rowan, or life in general, as we all do at times, it is hard to focus on how lucky I really am. But I do know it, and today I am reminded that for every hard moment or tough day there are five (at least!) good ones. I had a rough day last week – a really tough one containing vomit and tantrums- and by the weekend I really needed a break. And, because I have a husband who (while not perfect) can generally tell when I’m at the end of my tether and need a break or a change, I’ve had a much more relaxing weekend, where David has taken Rowan out to the park repeatedly and spent some really good father and son time. It is times like this when they get the chance to spend plenty of time together that you can see the bond they have. So much love from such a little boy, and he already knows how to share it around :-)

I’ve been rereading my book about life with a breastfeeding toddler and I found the section on fathers amusing, realising I have never once been subjected to criticism from David about our continued breastfeeding. Nothing but support, whether I want to feed Rowan in public to settle him, or if I’ve just had enough and need to be taken out of the equation for a while (sometimes there are complaints about other things that need doing, but never about the fact that I need a break from an activity that I chose to persue). All the suggestions in the book about how a father can help are things that David does. Not always without being asked and certainly not without complaints at times, but when I really need it, the support is there. I thank him for it, and perhaps one day Rowan will because without him there would be far more times when I felt unable to meet Rowan’s needs.

So today I give thanks. For my husband – the best Daddy a wife could hope for – and for my son, a constantly suprising, endearing, challenging, loving little soul. I do appreciate you both even if sometimes it may not feel like it

There’s something wrong with the world today

  • Posted on August 6, 2009 at 8:10 pm

I’ve just watched a nice cooking program on iplayer called ‘economy gastronomy’. As some typical voyeuristic BBC lifestyle rubbish, combined with some nice simple cookery, I enjoyed it. However as a comment on the people they found to go on it, I just want to say WTF!!?

This family (and I am afraid they are typical of so much of our society) did no cooking. Everything was oven cooked from a packet, zapped in the microwave or ordered from the takeaway. For a family of 5 they spent a whopping £220 a week on food. Two chefs came in and taught them some basic recipes, gave them a meal plan for the week and got hem to have a go at cooking for themselves. In order to make this happen the husband took a week off work as it was also half term and she couldn’t possibly cook and look after the kids ( although I admit the twin two year olds might have made life a bit difficult at times!)

Their new budget was £130 a week. I know people who can do it for closer to £30 than £130 so it didn’t really seem all that strict. It seems completely wrong to me that people can’t do such a simple job, even in a busy world.

I am following the story of some friends with interest. They are concerned about peak oil etc and are radically changing their lives to enable them to reduce their impact on the world and to provide themselves with the skills to survive in a world where we might not have access to all the conveniences of today. While I can’t see us changing to the extent they have I absolutely applaud their courage and dedication to their ideals and look for smaller things that we can do to change. And it’s not just because I worry about the future of the world, but because I think that a world where we have all lost the skills to care for our own basic needs is a poorer one. Cooking, gardening, sewing and other basic crafts are things that most of our generation know nothing about.

Thankfully I’m not completely clueless about this sort of thing but I am, slowly, trying to build on what I know, starting with a bit in the garden. Our lazy gardeing this year (generally having a go and growing from plants rather than seeds) is going much better than past years and we plan to be better prepared and a little more ambitious next year. Once our family size is more settled (it won’t be changing for a little while longer) i’d also like to thing about adding some more skills)

But if a huge part of our society can’t even feed themselves WITH a huge supermarket at their disposal where the hell would they be if something awful did happen? It really doesn’t bear thinking about!

Decluttering

  • Posted on August 5, 2009 at 6:42 pm

I’m currently in the process of making sure all our CDs are ripped so we can put them somewhere out of the way (and out of reach of little fingers) as we never use them directly. I’m wishing it were sensible to do the same with all those unwatched DVDs but I guess there would be disk space issues.

I just wish I could convert all my beloved books to ebooks!

8 years today

  • Posted on August 4, 2009 at 6:45 pm

8 years ago today I got married. Thankfully to David – only the one husband so far! It was a bizarre day that I enjoyed overall but have some odd memories of. I’ve always said I like being married better than getting married and it is still true. They have been 8 good years, each one better than the last so far, so thanks David, and here’s to many more

Doo!

  • Posted on August 2, 2009 at 10:05 am

Or Poo! if you’re fluent in Rowan Speak :)

Rowan has just developed an excellent awareness of the contents of his nappy. Since about last Tuesday he has been regularly grabbing at his nappy (picture a toddler bending over and grabbing his crotch!) while shouting Doo! to tell us he’s done a poo. Sometimes its not a poo (but I think he’s either telling us he’s done a week or is about to poo as I changed him thinking he wanted a fresh nappy, and he had pooed 5 minutes later) but he has told us about (I think) every poo since then, which is amazing as he gets nappy rash if we don’t notice the poo pretty quickly.

We’re not going to push the potty training but I might get a couple of pullup cloth nappies so we can offer him the potty when he does this at home.

Yay Rowan! He might not be talking much (although he is getting better – more on that later) but he is working on some stuff in that clever little brain!

Improving my world – a tiny goal

  • Posted on July 28, 2009 at 8:54 pm

I’ve long been thinking about my impact on this world an how I can try to live better and despite arguments with David about just how much effect one family would have, I have decided to try to set myself a goal. Maybe each week, maybe one for a month.

My first goal is for august, a month where we should be able to expect at least some sunshine! I am going to use the tumble drier as little as possible, and only for nappies when I do (we don’t have enough if we get several wet days in a row). It should save a bot of unnecessary electricity consumption

The Equality Bill Saga Continues…

  • Posted on July 23, 2009 at 6:29 pm

Well after the my response from Ms Baird MP, I emailed my MP again who responded promptly restating my two main points and promising to ask for clarification on these. A couple of days ago I got a response and here it is:

Dear Julie,

Regarding [me]

Thank you for your letter of 23rd June to the Vera Baird QC MP on behalf of the constituent Ms Goodwin concerning the Equality Bill. I am replying as the Minister responsible. I am sorry for puting you to the inconvenience of having to write a second letter as our first reply did not fully answer your constituent’s concerns. This was due to an administrative error.

On your constituent’s first point, if a mother was asked to stop feeding her child and leave a cafe, she will know that the law is on her side and this should give her the confidence to challenge the cafe owner by pointing out that he or she is treating her in a discriminatory manner. However, if for any reason she feels unable to do this, she can bring a discrimination claim against the cafe owner before the county court. Information and help on bringing a claim can be obtained from local Citizens Advice Bureaux, local Law Centres or the Equality and Human Rights Commission helpline.

With regard to her second point, the Equality Bill provides protection across specific areas – work, goods, facilities, services, public functions, premises and associations/private clubs. As is the case with discrimination law now, it therefore does not apply to exchanges between individuals in a personal or private capacity such as passers by in the street.

I hope this information is helpful to your constituent

Michael Foster DL MP

Well by omission I surmise that yes, she has to leave the cafe if she is asked, and no, it provides no protection against individuals harassing her. That just isn’t enough. Women and babies need more protection than that.

[Edit - just to clarify, I should have said that she may have the legal right to stay in that cafe, but she has nobody to protect that right at the time. I will be writing to my MP again for further clarification but as I understand it she has no right to call the police to back her up, and what use is the law without that right for an already vulnerable woman. As far as I am concerned, unless the legal system supports this right properly, as long as it is up to her to argue alone and push her case through the legal system, she does have to leave]

The Equality Bill and Protecting Breastfeeding Rights

  • Posted on June 21, 2009 at 7:33 pm

Most of you will know that I have been involved in campaigning for rights for breastfeeding women and babies for a little while now. I try to do some small things, and regularly write to my MP about issues.

The latest thing is the Equality Bill currently being considered. Morgan sums up the problem brilliantly as normal. Basically the government are fobbing breastfeeding women off with inadequate protection – certainly far less than what Scotland already has.

I wrote to my MP expressing my concerns about this – I sent her the following letter

Dear Julie Kirkbride,

The time of year has come around again where I am organising a picnic
in Birmingham to highlight the issue of the lack of legislation
protecting the rights of babies to be fed in public places. You may
remember that we organised one last year at short notice, but managed
to get some publicity. We hope that you will be able to join us this
year, knowing that you share our interest in protecting and promoting
breastfeeding.

We are holding the picnic on 20th July to coincide with the
parliamentary recess, coordinating with another picnic in London and
other regional picnics.

Tying in with this are the issues of the proposed Equalities bill that
is being touted as providing protecting for breastfeeding mothers.

I would like you to seek clarification from the Government on the
details of how breastfeeding in public spaces is protected under the
proposed Equalities Bill. Specifically, could you ask what would happen
if a mother was asked to stop feeding her child, and leave a cafe?
Would she have to leave, when asked, and then bring a claim after the
event?

I’d also appreciate you enquiring what protection a mother has if she
is approached in the street, or on premises, from a passer-by and not
the staff or owner of the premises? If a fellow passenger on the train,
for instance, starts to demand she stop feeding and leave the carriage,
what protection would the mother have under the Equalities Bill?

I am also concerned that 26 weeks after birth is specifically mentioned
- even if the proposed legislation was sufficient, protection for the
first 6 months will not help mothers to reach the target of at least 2
years recommended by the WHO.

As you know, if this took place in Scotland, the mother could have
either staff, or passer by, charged for an offence liable to a £2500
fine. I’m greatly concerned that the proposals in the Equalities Bill
are not equal to this and would ask that you seek clarification on my
behalf.

Many thanks for your assistance.

Yours sincerely,

Kat Goodwin

I recently received a reply, passed on from Vera Baird QC, MP

I haven’t had a chance to scan it yet, but this is what it says:

Thank you for your letter of 13 May 2009 … passing on correspondence from your constituent, This letter has been transferred to me as the Equality Bill forms part of my Ministerial responsibilities. Your constituent is concerned about discrimination associated with breastfeeding and shows support for the Equality Bill which is now being taken through parliament.

I am very pleased that your constituent supports protection against discrimination for breastfeeding mothers contained in the Equality Bill

The Government recognises the important contribution which breastfeeding can make to the health of mothers and infants. That is why we are doing everything we can to encourage mothers to breastfeed and to make sure that they are aware of its benefits. But, for many mothers, the uncertainty surrounding where they can breastfeed is a real deterrent. Babies do not get hungry to order and mothers have to be confident that they can feed their infants in a cafe, restaurant or shop without the embarrassment of having the owner as them to stop. This is what the Bill will do.

In the past, the law has not been as clear as it could be on this. People have been unsure of their rights and their responsibilities in this area. That is why the Equality Bill makes it clear that women who are treated less favourably outside work just because they are breastfeeding are protected from such discrimination.

Your constituents comments on this important piece of legislation are welcome. I am particularly encouraged at the strength of support and enthusiasm within the community and especially mothers for our efforts to eliminate breastfeeding discrimination.

Clearly I did not express support for the legislation, and none of my questions were answered. I shall have to try again.

Watching my weight… fall!

  • Posted on June 2, 2009 at 8:29 pm

Just a quick note to mention that I’ve manged to lose 8lbs in 3 weeks on weightwatchers. It has worked for me before but I’ve always lost interest, however more than half a stone in 3 weeks, and the idea that I’ll soon be breaking a stone barrier that I haven’t seen in more than 10 years is a very nice one.

I’ve got the fun challenge of my birthday coming up – and I have no intention of being too well behaved for that – but I have been sticking to this, and really feel like this time I can get down to the weight David and I agreed on in order for me to be nice and healthy before trying for another baby.

Another, less fun, challenge is that of getting to the gym. I never feel like going in the evenings, and mornings are hard when Rowan hasn’t been sleeping (although he seems to be back to normal with one feed a night the last few nights). I’m hoping that if I feel more rested I can get my arse out of bed a bit quicker and rush off nice and early. We’ll see.

In the meantime, at least Rowan keeps me active and walking.